PBT In Action

Pause Button Therapy

"Before I started using my PBT wristband, I was in trouble every day."
"I used to get into fights every playtime and at dinnertime as well. I never received any rewards – or if I did, they got taken away again the next time I was naughty. I had lots of incidents recorded in my behaviour book. My Mum was fed up of the school phoning her to have meetings about me. I was fed up and couldn't seem to be good. I'd try but then do the same things again. The teachers asked me if I'd like to try PBT and I thought Why not? I was fed up of being in trouble all the time and not enjoying school. I was also arguing with my brother all the time. Once I started using the band every day, I was amazed at how easy it was to think about what would happen if I did this or that. I soon realised that I could pause and think."

Father of three Barry's bad temper meant almost anything could make him 'flip'.
Sometimes he would be aggressive and verbally abusive. His wife and children feared for their lives when one minute he would be normal and the next a raging ball of anger. Barry was introduced to PBT by an anger management counsellor and liked the idea of stopping to think, imagining the consequences and making a choice as an alternative to flying off the handle as he had been. It wasn't long before Barry felt the anger build up inside of him. The children were being particularly loud and his first instinct was to shout but he remembered to press pause and think for a moment about his actions and the consequences. On Rewind, he can see another scenario with the more positive outcome he would prefer. Once ready to choose his action, he pressed Play and turned to the children. "Stop being so loud! Don't forget tomorrow is pocket money day and there's none for loud monsters" he joked, and everyone was quiet – and happy.

No matter how much Lilly tried she could not get any more things in her wardrobe.
It was bursting at the seams. Shopping, finding bargains and bidding online were her favourite pastime. Not rich, she just puts everything on plastic - and four years of that have left her with two major problems. Lack of cupboard space, and a bad credit rating. Lilly heard of PBT whilst online. Using it means she can Pause when she fancies buying yet one more item. She imagines a flat full of unworn clothes, a life spent paying back her debt, a life never being able to afford a holiday. Her second Fast Forward allows her to see how her life could be – a nice selection of clothes to wear, the rest sold on an online auction site to help pay off her debts, more money in her bank at the end of each month - in fact a real future without constant money worries. Returning to the present, she can make her choice of what to do, and press Play.

Mike and Sally have been drifting apart.
When they first got married there was a regular routine when Mike came home from work; they would have their dinner together and sit and talk about the day, before sitting down to enjoy a film or TV programme together. The weekends would be spent shopping, doing DIY or visiting family or friends. The relationship started to break down after Sally was introduced to a group of old friends via social networking sites. Not only was she 'talking' to old friends – and boyfriends, which didn’t go down very well with Mike – but she became wrapped up in her online life and increasingly withdrew from her day to day relationship, going online after dinner and going to bed long after Mike. When Mike heard about PBT from someone at work and suggested they both start working with PBT, Sally learned to press Pause and see the consequences of her 'virtual' life. By Fast Forwarding to how she and Mike could once again be closer, enjoy the things they used to do together, she was able to think of planning for the future without resorting to living an online life.